I sat in the dark theater trying my best not to do the ugly cry, but I couldn’t help it. So with my black mascara running, bottom lip quivering, and snot dripping down my nose, I watched the final moments of Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.
If you haven’t seen it, it’s about two lovers (impeccably played by Kate Winslet and Jim Carrey) who go to extreme lengths to forget about one another after breaking up. After finding out Clementine (Kate Winslet) had the memories of their relationship erased Joel (Jim Carrey) decides to do the same.
Revisiting this movie made me think about the great lengths we go to to forget our hurt, pain, anger, sadness and shame. While these characters used a futuristic procedure to forget most of us try to erase the past through numbing ourselves with food, entertainment, alcohol, sex, drugs and toxic relationships and behaviors.
However, no matter how hard we try to get away from the pain, it seems to always find us again.
But what if I told you there was a way to wipe the slate clean and start over?